Saturday, May 21, 2016

You Can Not Possibly Know

I heard my husband stand our ground tonight.

You can't possibly know what it's like to be an advocate to a transgender child - to a transgender person - unless they impact your life.  Unless you become a part of their lives. Unless you understand their lives.  Unless you move from that place where you are removed and moved into their world.

Was there a time when we were remote from such things?  From the world of transgender people?  Yes.  All of our lives we were remote - removed - untouched.  Not now.  Not anymore.  We have a child who is transgender.  A child who suffered from gender/identity dysphoria.  A child who struggled to find her way past a thing that was killing her to a place where she became a he person that made him safe and okay and different than the person my husband and I understood or imagined but eventually accepted because what choice do we have but to make this child okay in his world.

We

had

two

baby

girls

who

were

and

are

identical

twins

but

one

needed

another place to survive

beyond what we thought we understood as safe

she left what we gave her behind

and that is what hurt her father and I

but ...

she created and nurtured something else

someone else

on her own

without us

someone just as good

someone just as strong

and as important

and special

maybe even more so

than what we created.

It's hard

to change

of a thing

that we felt

was perfect.

We thought it was perfect

but we have learned

it was not.

Now it is ...

Now it is ...

Now he is ... <3


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